The Melting Pot

about love and everything….

Shakespeare, the father of modern literature and the greatest writer when it comes to writing about life, love , romance and the intricacies and the tragedies involved with them. Well here is just an attempt to continue from where Shakespeare left, but in a different way.

Being in love from the very start is a very agonizing experience. from the first step your road is filled with all kinds of roadblocks. Firstly if the one you love doesn’t know about your feeling, your mind is always occupied with finding ways to convey your heart felt desires to the person concerned. If this first hurdle is overcome, the constant fear of refusal is right on your mind. And yes your love story may come to an end here only. But if by any luck you do succeed in getting a positive response, you still are not too far away from the fear of a heartbreak which may be anywhere around the corner.

Even after settling into an relationship with a person you might not be as happy as you thought you should be. There always is something to bug your mind and eat away most of your time. The planning of dates, the gifts and presents etc are always occupying your mind. You may also have to live in the constant fear of your parents discovering your clandestine doings. This is actually what happens most of the time in our country where the parents still have some apprehension about their children finding their own partners. This period of new love is also the period where one is gripped by wicked emotions like jealousy and insecurity. Just seeing your boy/girl with someone else may turn you into the green monster of jealousy. Of course these feelings are baseless, but sometimes they are true, more often than not.

Somewhere down the road you may get bored or start feeling that you made the wrong choice in one of the most important matters of life. Small matters may turn into ugly fights and you may feel that you are traveling on different waves altogether. You might also start hating the person you once thought was your prince charming or sleeping beauty. And after this ending to not a very romantic love story and the heartburn, if it is there, you start looking for the next ‘right one’. That is to say, you are committing the same mistake again.

Finally if you do get the right one and your love saga ends in something called marriage, which is a disaster in itself, I would have to write another article on the aftermath.

So I would rather say, not to fall in love. Enjoy life as it comes. You don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend to be happy. They might make you unhappy for sure. You have friends with whom you can share everything and your family, which stands by you always. Just let your parents select the right partner for you. With luck you might land up with someone way out of your league. But still if you are hell bent on trying this, be careful. I just wish you luck and a very happy future.

The Lost Values

Have we lost our basic values? Well they’re not even moral values but basic manners.

I went to my friends house the other day and I was shocked to learn that the guy does not even posses the basic manners. His housemaid forgot to bring me a glass of water I had asked her to. The guy went crazy and started shouting at her. He abused her and threatened to fire her. I was stunned for a moment. Who the hell talks like that? I agree she’s the “servant” of the house but it does not give my friend the right to shout at her. She is his mother’s age. He calls her by her name. It not only shows that the person has no respect for elders but also reflects badly on his family and puts a question mark on his upbringing.

From the start, I was given strict orders by my father to address the domestic helpers in a respectful manner. I was forbidden to talk rudely to them or even shout at them. My father said that he emplyed them and small kids like myself had no right to disrespect or order the servants who were all elder to me. I have always addressed them as XXX Ji, YYY aunty etc. but never called them by their name. It looks cheap…

Now when I look at people my age, shouting at their servants and threatening to fire them, I just feel like giving them a piece of my mind.

Its strange. When they don’t like talking rudely to their own parents or somebody abusing or threatening them, why the hell do they speak in such a derogatory manner with the domestic help??

Lack of manners or of basic moral values?? Beats me!

What to do?

There is a teacher in my mother’s school—somewhere around 28 years in age, a science Post-graduate, very soft-spoken, responsible, pretty, tall and almost with all things desirable for being a good person, daughter, wife, daughter-in-law et al. But still hell shadows her. The story or rather the reality of her life is that the 1st night of her marriage, she was told by her husband that he loves someone else and he only married her for the sake of his parents. He’d have no relationship with her—physical or emotional. This situation didn’t change for 6 months. It was then, when amidst the neglect of her husband, tantrums of in-laws, almost imprisonment in a separate city—unknown to her, she decided to come to her father’s home here in Chd. . it has been more than 1 and a half year of her staying like this and she has now got a court-summon from her so-called husband asking for a divorce. She has decided to fight the case but to fight these kinda cases is not easy, with those ever-being-postponed court dates, humiliation of the girl and the end result of her devastation. This might sound like another story of a soap opera but no! it isn’t.

Her life is disturbed, she almost seems to be a blot on her parents (w/o her fault) and worst of all-has a bloody long life to go. What if she loses the case, no one really marries a divorcee of middle-class status. What if she wins the case, still the situation is not gonna change. There is no point in going and living with her husband again if she wins b’coz he is not gonna change.

What should she do?

F.I.F.A. Freaks Interested in Football Assoc.(II)

hiya ppl,
i’m back with a little more info. on the world cup. well rooney’s going to get anoyher scan done on which depends his chances of playing the world cup. However, coach of the eng. team thinks that even without rooney the eng have a fair chance of giving the legendary brazillians a run for their money. well as a football freak i can tell you all one thing rooney or not the brits. mean business. so let’s not underestimate them as we never know what might be lurking in the corner for th defending nation brazil.

a movie called fanna

Disclaimer: this post is a review about a depressing thing called FANNA. And it is not a good one. So whoever liked the movie please read the following post your views will definitely be changed. And those who have yet to see the movie please read and you will know what to do…

Well today I watched the movie fanna
Two things are wrong in the above sentence
1. its not a movie
2. I dint watch it

Explanations
1. it is a disgrace on name of Indian movies
2. I dint watch it as I was sleeping for most of the time

Reasons
1. the picture had no story
2. the direction was pathetic
3. the music was also not very good
4. amir khan alone cant save the movie
5. totally over hyped like all the recent yashraj movies

some crappy instances and related questions from the movie
1. amir khan is passing “oh so old SMSes” as shayari
2. kashmiri girls are falling for it…. I thought ppl knowing urdu must know poor shayari from good one( probably the smses hav not reached valley due to non availability of cellular services)
3. the one liners in the movie are hardly worth noticing
4. how can a mother agree to marry her BLIND daughter to a complete stranger and that over telephone
5. what was lara dutta doing in the movie…argghhh totally totally useless
6. the train ki “chain kheencho” sequence is totally bull shit…what were they thinking while filming it
7. when did they start allowing ppl who had undergone an eye operation to walk and work like normal ppl just after your eyes are opened for the first time
8. why didn’t they use sunny deol as a hero…he would have looked more convincing and in places in those totally GADAR like fight sequences

and the list might be endless

some questions which arose in my mind after watching the movie
1. why did I agree to watch the movie
2. why did amir khan say yes to do this movie
3. when will yashraj start producing good films….they have been like this for so long…over hyping than going bust
4. how could KUNAL KOHLI do this after giving us a gem of a movie like HUM TUM….maybe hum tum was a copy of harry met sally that’s why

really people in places where fanna was banned were saved from watching this movie

it should have been called FUNNY not FANNA.

a song dedicated to fanna

pakkaaaa daala pakkaaa daala
pakkaaaa daala pakkaaa daala

yashraj sifarish jo karta tumhari
deta wo janta ko daga
saare theatre k parde jala ke
chullu bhar paani mein ho jaun fanna….

P.S.: kajol is no spy as all the SMSes have been saying…but she does get her eyes back…ofcourse it is shown as pathetically as it was possible