Is what is being done right ???
There is this friend of mine, in my class, very nicely known to me. She is from a very well-off rather elite family with almost all riches, her dad being a city-famous lawyer and what not!? Now the timing b/w her parents is not really the way it should be but they are just living under one roof because of their social status. There is gender discrimination also as my friend is discriminated from her very own brother. Except from the luxuries and the comforts, her parents provide her with little love or affection. All the frustration and tension in the house obviously leads to bad results. She is kinda dumb, which makes her the laughing stock of the class. Moreover whichever guy she tries to approach, that guy turns out to be a big-time bastard, according to her.! She isn’t good in studies, if has any talent—then never has she showcased it, and the present situation is that her life is in a complete mess and a disaster. Because of all these not-very-good things, she is not interested or determined to do anything in life. No career or anything.
Her parents want her to do law and carry the family tradition going. Now, 1st of all, she is not at all convincing to pursue law and more so, law holds no interest for her. Her apparent riches and Carmel-education has made her rebellious and it’s time she had a reality check. Now last night, she might have had a small talk with her parents about career which resulted in a massive beating of hers. Her mum beat her tight leaving visibly painful bruises, sprains and wounds. Almost all day her eyes were moist. The problem—she wants to go abroad but her parents have enrolled her into law tuition already—starting very soon.
She cannot talk to her parents about anything—her dad being the typical strict-stern fathers, her mother being busy in her diamonds and kitty-parties. Because of all this she has become the way she is—stubborn, dumb, kinda haughty and does not really contains good personality traits. This definitely shows at home also and according to me, her parents must be worried about her casual approach towards life. This is a chain reaction. The word is ADJUSTMENT and it is nowhere to be seen. I’ve told her to visit a councilor but she says that she can’t do so.
The problem is not of the physical wounds that this family gives to each other, but the spoiling of an institution which is so beautiful. They are spoiling her life.
Just a week before she told me,” Divi, I bought Tommy Hilfiger shoes worth Rs. 5000. Damn they look luxurious, rich!” I just thought to myself—- is this the real wealth, or she is just diverting herself from the real life.
May 10th, 2006 at 9:17 pm
hi, divya, i really feel sorry not for your friend, but her parents.bcoz they will realize , once she moves away from her, after marriage. but if you could get your friend online, i shall try to motivate and uplift her(*i hope my words will do some magic*).. its upto you wether you want to be a good friend or just move on as others do. you decide. bye for now take care.councilling is my part time job which i do online from 9 pm to 11 pm everyday.
May 10th, 2006 at 10:15 pm
had i been like others, i’d not have posted this. i’ll try to bring her, she is completely not attached with internet, but still–i’ll try. thanks.
May 11th, 2006 at 11:05 am
for the line “its upto you wether you want to be a good friend or just move on as others do.”. i ask for your forgiveness. if it had hurt you.
May 11th, 2006 at 2:53 pm
arre–not at all. completely no need to be sorry and moreover its too trivial to make me hurt! no odd feelings, yaar–none at all!
May 11th, 2006 at 5:49 pm
Man… this is crap!!! What are her parents doing??? I am still trying to think who the girl is. But….well…. it actually doesnt matter who she is.
Beating a grown up kid is not at all advisable. She is going nowhere. No positives only negatives. Neither will her academic life be good not her future. The girl will never go to a counselor herself. I suggest that either you talk to your class teacher or ask her to do it. Tell her that her parent’s beat her up and they discriminate. The school needs to intervene her and stop this nonsense. The parents won’t stop and neither will the rebellious teen.
I think your class teacher is Veena Sharma Ma’am… right? Talk to her. She’s a lil’ hyper but a very caring and a loving person.
Her parents are abusing her and its so not fuckin right!!!! Do they think Tommy Hilfigher shoes will heal the wounds? They don’t listen to her. They don’t talk to her. They don’t take her into consideration. For them, she’s as good as not being there. I’m being a lil’ harsh here but her parents are simply uncivilized!!! God help her.
May 11th, 2006 at 8:09 pm
Beating a kid?
I am totaly against beting some one below 5 or above 5.
Rest for ur pal, I wish she gets better. She has got a good pal like U. Money is not everything but it is something that can take care of everything else but not the love and affection which we miss.
May 11th, 2006 at 11:43 pm
her parents need a reality check! bloody idiots!
May 15th, 2006 at 2:22 pm
well…. what can i say…..first of all, i’ve been askin her, u and saburi in school to tell me what happened with her….. nobody tells me…..n i have to come to this blog to find out what has happened to one of my closest friends who are with me half the day………………..good i logged in……next time something or some problem occurs, u mind tellin me about it so i can help my friends? i’m sorry to start like this but i have to. i agree with rahul, n i think first her parents should fix their minds before she does hers. sure she might need counselling n if she is accepting types, it will work for her. but this physical beating has to be reported to veena sharma, cause the root cause of all her problems is her parents’ attitude. she will never speak to veena directly cause at this age, kids hesitate to do so from the fear of presenting a softy image to the teacher n other peers. n please mention how her parents have shown gender discrimination because i think it is less of that n more of their just being too protective. so much so that she starts finding solace in the company of other rich kids(guys who turn out to be double n triple timers)….. uno i was thinking n thinking the other day as to why she chooses to always defy her parents but i didn’t know about this then. it’s not her fault n i’m going to help her before we all pass out from 12th n leave school.
November 13th, 2008 at 7:02 am
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